The status of being a Musician, more often than not, suggests a "million dollar" contract to oneself. Included in this contract would be the calculations of the myriads of monetary funds spent in pursuit of accomplishing one's musical goals, as well as the "lend-lease" program financing one's instrument of choice.
This "self-driven" contract has no legal precedent which might explain when and under what circumstances a negative response or "NO!" is, in fact, appropriate. There is neither contract small print, nor the representation by Talent manager to speak in behalf of "self".
So, what is one to do when approached to perform - whether it be Solo, Vocal, Instrumental, Accompanist - and you strongly wish to decline the invitation? Perhaps one is justified in refusing, or maybe the negative response is based upon a somewhat more obtuse or irksome reason (What? No "harmonious 'vibes'"?) Whatever the cause, it is exactly at that moment when "self" realizes it is at the mercy of the fickle, yet powerful "Court of Opinion" should a "NO!" be stated.
Many realities are available with persons who were once asked to substitute for a Principal musician, who had said "NO!" for a certain performance, and subsequently gained exposure and stardom. But, what of the Principal who refused? Very few words are ever said about the aftermath of losing one's place; knowing that it is irreversible in light of the substitute receiving even greater reviews with this big "break", and thus leaving the Principal's career at stake.
It may be safe to conclude, for a musician at any level, whether "A" lister to "Z", a "NO!" is a word that might easily be defined as a condundrum or paradox that only "self" may be in a position to solve. With the realities of life, a timely or an untimely "NO!" may leave one with either a lifetime of regret, or the beginning of a lifetime of great joy.
Elevator Photo: "Kaufhaus des Westens", 1907; Public Domain via Wikimedia Commons.
